Do you know this man? I’d like to, someday.

1. SMART almost uncomfortably smart. like, probably had problems fitting in as a child

2. WORLD-CHANGING world-changing. someone with the passion and strength to make things happen for himself and his loved ones. doesn’t have to be prominent or leader, but has that energy and drive to make things around him better.

3. ETHICAL extremely ethical: liberated, feminist, socially aware, kind, environmentally aware

4. PASSIONATE in love, in family, and in life ambition. someone who wants to create together an amazing life enriched by interesting friends and experiences. cultural, social and recreational drive to experience life at its fullest.

5. MOTIVATED very motivated to work on the relationship and take extremely good care of me and himself. pours energy into making our “together” better.

6. GROUNDED self-esteem and grounding, or a desire to work on self-esteem and grounding, sufficient to stabilize our efforts at a relationship and to prevent cheating, etc. real guy and not an asshole. very sweet and balanced.

7. ATTRACTIVE chemical attraction, even if it takes some time to develop. i know from experience the physical (as in appearance) side of this is almost irrelevant. i can never predict what will “do it” for me, and i suspect it’s all a matter of his mind & personality

8. LOVING loves me, my entire family, especially my kids.

9. KIND treats people well, makes it a priority to reach out and care for those around him

10. SUPPORTIVE he is a true partner with his own interests, ambitions and career and he drives me on to achieving ever better things

11. CONSIDERATE not so wrapped up in his own life that he fails to notice his impact on those around him

12. SEXY yeah, things in bed must rock. but again the scope of this is not limited to “norms” of what is sexy.

13. FUNNY personality galore, but not the showy kind that comes from low self-esteem. great fun to just be around.