Why aren’t daters better networkers?

I mean, for chrissakes, we’re all fundamentally looking for 1) more ways to meet interesting and potentially interested people and 2) more interesting and potentially interested people to meet. Well who better to compare notes with than someone else who is out and about on the scene?

Folks on dating sites and their ilk are always so goal-focused. All “are YOU my girlfriend???” And then if not, cutting all contact and ties and diving after the next possibility. Pu-leeze.

Don’t get me started about the artificial sense of competition. If two people are eventually going to hit it off in a really big, awesome, lifelong way, having someone “hotter” or “smarter” or whateverer around is not such a substantial impediment. Let’s team up here, people.

What we should do is, see every potential “date” as also a potential “colleague” in the whole meeting people effort. It takes the pressure off any 2 people having some kind of first date or meeting up. We should just all network with each other to “refer business” to each other, both in terms of cool people and in terms of cool things single people are doing.